Does It Mean The End? – Does infidelity have to ruin a relationship? Must a relationship be over if someone cheats on their partner? The obvious answer is no. The relationship doesn’t have to come to an end. Relationships have weathered far worse and anyone who’s been in one long enough fully understands that.
Weather The Storm – It doesn’t mean that infidelity doesn’t cause a major strain in the relationship. Every relationship needs to have boundaries. You and your partner need to discuss what exactly cheating is. There are some of you reading this that are in more liberal open relationships. Cheating for you may mean something entirely different than what it would for a conservative couple. These things need to be discussed early on in the relationship. It’s not uncommon these days for couples to take breaks. You’ve probably seen DNA tests on your favorite talk show as the result of those breaks. If you and your partner take a break from each other, you’ve got to make rules. A broken heart will be the result if you don’t. Not only that, but it very well could ruin the relationship beyond repair.
Be Safe – Always get tested for sexually transmitted diseases if you or your partner has had sex with someone else. STDs are one of the nasty consequences of infidelity. You want to take your health during this time very seriously. Not just your physical health, but your mental health as well. You won’t be able to repair your relationship, or move on, if you’re sick. Take care of yourself and work on building a better tomorrow. This is solid advice, regardless if the relationship survives the infidelity, or not.
Lovely Lust – Many people feel that there’s something wrong with lust. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with lust. It’s actually a sign that you’re attracted to your partner. Yes, that’s the catch. Just like with everything in life, there is a catch. The lust you feel must be towards your partner. Not having a sexual desire for your partner is a very bad thing. It’s something that is a sign of bigger problems ahead.
Not In The Mood – What happens when there’s no sexual desire at all on behalf of you and or your partner? The early signs of a lack of desire must be addressed quickly. It’s not uncommon for all people to go through dry spells. The truth is, your partner may be hiding a health problem. They also could be too tired from their work or other daily activities. Absent a valid reason, the lack of desire is a very serious problem. Never overlook the lack of lust if it goes on for too long. It’s not natural to be around someone of the opposite sex that you find attractive and not have sexual desires.
Too Much Of A Good Thing – Can too much lust be a bad thing? Probably not if it’s geared toward your partner. A strong desire for sex is only a problem if it causes you to seek satisfaction outside of your relationship. Most people don’t want to be hounded all day long or treated like a piece of meat. Don’t overdo it and smother them with your sexual desires. Make sure that they know you’re attracted to them and filled with lust. Just knowing that will help you get more lucky more often.
Something Different – A change of scenery is what your sex life needs. This is no doubt true if you have a family or there are other people living with you. Sex is easy when it’s just you and your partner. Things get more complicated when there are other people living with you. Sex becomes something that you have to wiggle into your already crowded and busy lifestyle.
Change Things Up – There are times when you just need to get out and find some place else to have sex. You shouldn’t mistaken this for voyeurism or some type of sex in a public place. We’re talking about finding a place where you can have sex that’s different from where you’re at now. A different location can spice things up a bit. Having sex in someplace new can make it feel like a different experience. The change of location in itself may be enough to make for an unforgettable experience. A stale sex life is the result of many different factors. Changing where you have sex can have an impressive impact. You should always choose safe places to have sex. This is why a hotel or a motel is your best choice.
The Great Outdoors – The last thing you want to do is to get in trouble while having sex in public. That’s never a good thing. You’ll end up causing yourself more grief, than pleasure, in the long run. Where should you have sex? Let your imagination run wild. Maybe, you can go on a one day theme park trip. You may even think of it as a mini vacation. Why not do a little role playing as well? The possibilities are limitless if you allow yourself to be creative. Which is something you should always try to be when it comes to sex.
Talk To Me – How often do you and your partner talk about sex? Sex can be a very uncomfortable topic for some people. It shouldn’t be. In fact, you should talk about sex quite a bit. There’s no reason why you shouldn’t be talking about it. Communication is key in all aspects of your relationship. Talking isn’t something that’s only done to figure out what you’re going to eat for supper. A communication break down will have a negative impact on all of your life. This also includes what goes on in the bedroom.
They Can’t Read Your Mind – How do you know what your partner likes in the sack? You talk about it. You tell them what you like. Don’t be shy to compliment your partner on a great finger banging job. How was the ball licking last night? Fantastic? Don’t forget to let them know how much you liked it. This of course is a humorous approach to get you to understand the power and importance of communication. However, your partner can’t know what you like without you telling them. It goes far beyond telling your partner what you like when it comes to sex. Talking about sex also opens up the channels to discuss your sex life in general. If you’re not getting enough action, then you need to talk about it. You’re not going to be able to talk about it if there’s a communication break down in your relationship. There is no reason why adults should feel uncomfortable talking about sex. It’s a normal healthy part of a relationship.
Communication Is The Key – Being shy about sex will only lead to future dissatisfaction. You need to be able to talk about this very important aspect of your life. Talk openly and freely about sex with your partner. Always make them aware that they can talk to you about anything. Big problems happen to relationships when the sex dries up. The easiest way to avoid these problems is by being able to talk about them.
How To Make It Better – Everyone wants to know what they can do to improve their sex lives. Rarely are people concerned about what ruins their sex life. That’s what this is all about. How you improve your sex life can be as simple as avoiding bad stuff. That sounds overly simple, but it’s true. Don’t look for magic cures that will spice up your sex life instantly. Instead, focus on changing the aspects of your life that have a negative effect on what’s going on in the bedroom. Fix the small things before they become issues.
Seek Help If Needed – This is where communication is key. You may have to discuss the things with your partner that’s getting in the way of having sex. That may also mean talking to a marriage therapist. Counseling isn’t just for nut jobs who can’t keep it together. It’s also for people who experience bumps in the road. How much do you value your sex life? Talking about it to a therapist may be the only way to rescue it. Improving your sex life may also mean modifying your diet and exercise routine. What you put into your body has a direct impact on how it performs. A healthier you will also be more attractive to your partner. Higher performance and better appearance are just two of the many aspects of your life that will improve when taking care of your health.
You’re Worth it – You must work on improving all aspects of yourself for your sex life to improve. This is what most people don’t understand. Don’t go to the store looking for a herbal supplement or some magic lingerie that will do the trick. The trick to great sex is being healthy and happy long before you hop into the sack. If you are healthy and happy, great sex will follow. There is no sexual cure for those who are unhealthy and sad, other than self improvement.
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