Why Are They Watching? – What should you do if you discover your partner has been looking at pornography? Don’t think this is a question just women have. Women are increasingly turning to porn to satisfy their need for arousal. There are many reasons for this and none of them are the point of this article. Most people, men or women, turn to porn due to a lack of sex. That’s the reason why porn exists in a nutshell.
Are They Turned On? – Should you freak out if you find out that your partner looks at porn? Maybe break a vase or two in the process? Relax, don’t get upset. Instead, investigate what they’re looking at. Ask them what type of porn they’re watching. You may even want to try watching it with them. Does your partner seem more aroused during certain sex acts than others? If so, ask if they’d like you to do that to them. Use this as a learning opportunity to discover why you’re partner is looking at porn. If you’re not having enough sex, then that’s more than likely the reason. It could also be that the sex you are having isn’t fulfilling their needs. Remember, you’re not fooling around in the sack just to pass the time. The goal should always be to fulfill the others needs. If this is done, the result will more than likely be a reduction in porn viewing. Even some highly sexually active people still look at porn.
Relax – Masturbation for some people is a stress reliever. They play with themselves as a means of getting rid of whatever stress has been bottling up. This can be healthy depending on how often a person masturbates. If masturbation is getting in the way of day to day life, then it’s a signal something else entirely is wrong. That’s a topic for a whole different article.
Too Much Of A Good Thing – How do you know if you watch too much porn? Many people don’t realize that they’re watching too much. Too much of anything isn’t good for you. Porn and masturbation go together hand in hand. Most people who watch porn masturbate while doing so. We’ve already talked about how masturbation can have a negative impact on your sex life. Porn can have the same negative impact, along with a few other things that most people aren’t going to realize. Watching too much porn can give us too high of expectations of one another. No one can perform like they do in porn videos. This is a truth that should be common sense.
Reality Check – Watch professional athletes play a game and see how they perform. You can’t slam dunk a basketball like they can. Why would you think that you or your partner should have the same oral sex skills as a porn star? Then there’s the bodies that the porn stars have. The guys have huge cocks and most of them spend all day in the gym. The women have big tits and rarely have an extra ounce of fat on them. Chances are you and your partner look nothing like the people in porn videos do. Unrealistic expectations when it comes to both performance and appearance is what watching too much porn will result in. Then no one is happy.
Everything In Moderation – This isn’t to say that you should quit watching porn entirely. Just make sure you’re not jerking off to porn more than you’re having sex. Porn is a lot like restaurant food, a little every now and then is okay. Don’t eat more takeout than food than what your own two hands cook. Don’t watch more porn than you have sex. It’s as simple as that.
Let’s Watch Some Sex – Both men and women look at porn. Sure, men consume far more porn than women do. This always has been and always will be the case. What do you do when you discover your partner is looking at porn? Maybe they’re even watching a lot of porn. There’s the tubes, webcams, and even erotic literature online. So much smut exists on the internet it’s difficult to not run into it. Many people stumble across their partner’s browsing history and become shocked. Why would they ever want to look at porn when they have you? That’s what we’re going to talk about here.
Getting Enough Real Sex? – Your partner’s porn viewing habits may or may not reflect what’s going on in the bedroom. Do you have an active sex life? If so, then your partner isn’t viewing porn because they aren’t getting any action in the sack. If you don’t have an active sex life, then that tells the story right there. Your partner probably doesn’t want to cheat on you and is masturbating while looking at porn. Nip it in the bud and get your sex life back on track. This sort of thing can wreck a relationship and luckily you saw the warning signs before it was too late.
Get Some Sex Ideas – Let’s pretend for a minute that your sex life is great and your partner is still looking at porn. Should you feel hurt? The short answer is no. Get involved and watch porn with your partner. See what kind of stuff they’re into. The real fun part is acting out what you see in the videos. You can spice up your sex life by recreating your partner’s favorite sex scenes. Take this opportunity to explore and learn about you and your partner’s sexuality. The process will help you grow and enable the both of you to share in something new. Just remember those people in the videos are more than likely professionals. They have sex for a living and that means they’re a whole lore more skilled and flexible than the rest of us. You may want to skip twisting yourself up like a pretzel if you’re not a gymnast by nature.
This is a guest blog submission by Climax Connection member, Random Writer.
Adult Bookstores – Have you ever thought about going to an adult bookstore with your partner? If not, it’s high time that you do. Back in the day people mainly went to adult bookstores to buy porn videos and magazines. These days those two things are mostly bought by old men that can’t get it up. Everyone now gets their porn online in one form or another.
Don’t Be Embarrassed – Sex toys are the reason why you go to adult bookstores now. Sure, you can buy them online and it’s really convenient to do so. The problem is, you can’t see what you’re buying. Being able to see the sex toy in person gives you a whole different perspective. It also enables you to see your partner’s reaction when they touch it and hold it. Take your time and look around at what the adult bookstore has to offer. If you’ve never been in one before, you’re going to be surprised and maybe even a little embarrassed. Don’t let that stop you from having a good time in there.
One Stop Porn Shop – Your local adult bookstore should have something for everyone. You should also be able to find some good deals. That means you’re not going to have to break the bank to walk out of the store with something. Walking through the aisles of an adult bookstore is a great experience and every couple should give it a try. Go in with an open mind and you just make walk out with a brand new toy. You can buy more than just sex toys at your local adult bookstore. You should also be able to buy lube, condoms, and even lingerie. That’s even more reason why you should head to your local adult bookstore today.
This is a guest blog submission by Climax Connection member, Random Writer.
Make A Homemade Porno – Today everyone has a smartphone with a camera inside it. That means you can make your own videos. The days of having to buy a tape and all that are a thing of the past. Making your own sex video can be a lot of fun. You can make it as complicated or as amateur as you want. That’s the best thing about making your own sex video. Guys can pretend to be a handyman or gals can be a damsel in distress. Your creativity is the only limit to what you can do. You’ve seen plenty of porn videos and there’s no need to lie about it. You can make yours like something you’ve seen or totally different.
Trust Is Key – Don’t make videos with people you can’t trust. This is something only couples that have been together for awhile should do. It’s not uncommon for people to use sex tapes as a tool to punish people after they break up with them. Don’t allow this to happen to you by making a video with someone that’s untrustworthy. You very well could end up on a thousand porn sites if they get angry with you.
For Your Eyes Only – Make sure the video is for your eyes only. You may even consider erasing it after watching it a few times. That way you know it can’t get into the wrong hands. You can always make another video and improve it with your experience. Always remember to have fun and ham it up for the camera. That’s the best way to ensure that you’re going to enjoy watching the video later. You can even fake moan like they do in the real porn videos. Don’t forget the cumshot! A good facial is a great way to end a sex tape. Just make sure to have a towel handy for when the camera isn’t rolling.
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