How About You? – How often does the average couple have sex? Most guys think they’re not having enough sex. If they only knew how little action the average guy gets. Couples have sex anywhere from once a week to just one time per month. That’s the normal range for the typical couple. Think about that for just a second. Do you get laid that often? If so, you should consider yourself lucky. It’s not uncommon for new couples to have sex all the time. The sex tends to tamper down as the relationship grows. Kids play another factor in that. Family life can be very draining. It eats up your time and all of your energy. Life has a way of getting in between couples and sex.
Make Sex a Priority – Gone are the days of 9-5 jobs. It used to be that couples worked the same hours. It was just a few short decades ago that women debated about working outside of the home. Sex was a whole lot easier when the old lady was home and dinner was on the table. Today, lives are busy and couples are far apart from each other. How many times a month do you get laid? More than four? If so, you’re in the minority. Less than once and you’ve got a problem. Don’t shoot for sex every day of the week. It’s not possible for most couples these days.
Don’t Let it Slide – A few times a week is optimum for new couples. As you age the number will go down. This is natural and you shouldn’t be alarmed by it. You should only be alarmed if the sex dries up completely. Sex has an ebb and flow to it. You may get laid more during vacations or holidays. Times that are stressful may produce less results in the sack. A healthy relationship is one that fluctuates in the amount of sex you have. Nothing in life is truly consistent. Don’t be surprised if the action in the bedroom isn’t.
Last Longer – It seems Mother Nature in one her many tricks upon mankind made men stronger, but gave women better stamina. I always find it amusing how I can outlast guys half my age when it comes to orgasms. So many, most, are one and they’re done wonders. Not many can go multiple rounds. Some can yes, and they are my favorites for sure. I guess for some guys an orgasm does deplete them of their strengths. You always think of the silly advice of coaches telling their players not to have sex before a big game, perhaps there’s something to that.
Go For It – Women on the other hand, can often feel invigorated and ready to take on more, it can be a getting a second wind situation that perks us up. Funny how we have been built so differently in many cases that way. If it’s that way with most half my age, I don’t even want to think how the ones my own age or older are even beginning to satisfy their ladies. I guess they aren’t. Depressing. Granted some women don’t have the drive or the interest in the first place, but some of us do and for ones like us, it’s hard to find a partner that can keep up with us.
Sexual Endurance – So when we stamina filled women do come across one of the rare men that can keep up with us, it is a treat to be sure. To be left exhausted, breathless and spent is the most wonderful feeling! No, I can’t bench press heavy weights like many guys can, but then, I don’t think there’s many guys that can cum 7 times in 90 minutes either…….Um, I like my skill better!
Isn’t It Romantic – Valentine’s Day can be very romantic for one if they are part of a couple. If alone, not so much. It can actually make you bitter and angry! Looking at all the couples hand in hand and swooning over one another to the single person can make them pretty much go, “Barf, gag!” Lovely dovey is nice if you’re one of them, lonely if you’re not. Many that are couples they can still feel alone, you have no idea how many people I talk to that are part of a couple yet are “alone” in sexless relationship.
Love Is In The Air – If you are lucky enough to be in a healthy, satisfying relationship, do what you can to keep it that way and keep it fresh and exciting and filled with hot sex and spontaneity. There’s no need to spend lots of money, as some have been doing. Many say it’s becoming like Christmas, too commercialized and benefiting mainly greeting card companies, and florists and candy factories. A lovely dinner at home or out can be just fine for couples on a budget. There’s no need to spend a fortune and go into debt.
I Love You SO Much – Valentine’s Day has also been one of the most popular days for couples to get engaged. Love is just in the air surrounding that time and many of us hope Cupids arrow will hit our intended target. I recall once I made pink heart shaped sugar cookies for a guy I had a crush on and had my mom deliver them, oh God, I wince at such antics… I didn’t get him anyway, but I tried. I thought the cookies were appropriate and got the point across.
Toys For Girls & Boys – Sex toys are a growing trend all over, for single people and couples alike. Most women have a few vibrators in their bedside tables these days to enhance their masturbation experience, and men are also getting on the bandwagon and getting themselves everything from Fleshlight’s to Pocket Pussies. For many, fingers and hands are great, but just don’t provide as much variety as they would like for their solo masturbation experience.
Spice Things Up – A few guys I have talked to love their pocket pussies so much and say they feel so good, they can only last a mere few moments once they insert their cock into them the feeling is so exquisite. There are literally thousands of sex toys available for every conceivable sexual activity out there, from spanking paddles and whips for ones into BDSM, to sex dolls for the really lonely ones out there. Things like flavored lubricants, chocolate body paints and lickable honey dust that is applied with little feather applicators make things fun for you and your partner. They spice things up a little from the everyday.
Ban Boring Sex – Some will enjoy their vibes alone in peace, others have loftier goals of getting their partners to try every thing from strap ons to sex swings. The items do provide a different sensation than a hand could, no on has a vibrating hand now, do they? Some get very bored with the same thing every time, no matter how good it is and toys allow you to explore different sensations and add some variety to your sexual routine. Massage oils and candles can also set the perfect mood for trying all these fun sex accessories.
How Many Have You Done The Deed With – Should you tell your partner how many partners you have been with? This is a common thing that comes up early on in relationships some are worried about. The only time I think you should answer this truthfully is if the answer is none. Someone deserves to know if they are about to go where no man has gone before. They may not be ready for the responsibility of that title bestowed upon them. Otherwise, no good can come of revealing such a thing.
Keep Your Mouth Shut – The old double standard is alive and well, and a truthful answer may have a guy thinking you are a slut if you’re honest with them. Just the other day a guy I was chatting with stated he’d been with over 100 women, and he’s under age 30. May be true, may be not true, but I was not impressed. Imagine if a woman stated such an answer. Who would honestly say they wouldn’t first think “slut”?
Do They Really Need To Know – We really do not have a right to judge others, we do not know the circumstances that brought them to have as many or as few partners as is socially acceptable. For ones that are very open, the types perhaps into the swinger lifestyle, a high number of partners and revealing of the experiences that goes with that may prove very arousing to both parties, to others it may color their perception of us and make us question their fidelity. Do you REALLY want to know “the number”? Wouldn’t it just taunt you and perhaps worse, be used as future ammunition in arguments? As long as both people are disease free and willing to prove that if asked, revealing numbers of any sort is not the way to go. What is an acceptable number for one person, may be a staggering amount to another. Some things really are best left under our hats.
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