Adult Social Network – Adult online communities take on many different meanings for different users. For some it’s just casual fun they seek in between relationships when they are lacking the intimacy they seek from another person. For others in relationships with people that do not have the same sex drive as them, it supplements their relationship since they are not getting enough to keep them satisfied.
Finding Fun Online – For others that may not be in any kind of relationship, an adult community may be the only sexual interaction they are getting from anyone, except their own hand. Sad but true fact. Finding a stranger online to masturbate with may seem very odd to some people that may not understand the dynamics of an online relationship, but it can be and is a wonderful thing for those that understand it entirely.
Masturbation Partners – You may not have the sense of obligation to an online partner that you do to a real life one, and that can be a very good thing. You hook up when you hook up, and you don’t really have to answer to anyone. Some online things can be a one time thing, others can go on regularly or infrequently for literally years and you may masturbate with that online partner dozens of times over the phone, or on webcam, or ones using cyber sex, it can be an important outlet for many of us and a site like this one is definitely a place where you can find the sorts of people also looking for that kind of interaction.
Online Privacy – Chatting online and having fun like cyber sex and phone sex are wonderful for people looking to maintain some level of privacy in their online social activities. Many assume ones are not into cam sex because they must be ugly and this is why they are “hiding themselves”. Not at all, many are either simply not aroused by watching a stranger shake their junk, or else they are worried about their privacy.
Can I Trust You? – People blackmailing others by recording cam shows is a sad reality for some. You never know who you are dealing with on the other side of the computer screen. I laughed one time when some guy opened his cam, I hadn’t asked him to as it’s not an interest of mine, and I swear he had a bandanna over his face from the nose down like a bank robber. He had what he felt was a penis deformity and wanted my opinion, I kid you not. And, truth be told, it DID look deformed! The bandanna mask did take me aback as much as his deformed cock though. I thought he must have been burned once to do such a thing, and he didn’t know me well enough to know I was no threat.
Give Me Some Privacy – Many are self conscious about their looks as it is, and I don’t ask for pics as a rule, as long as their voice is what I want, I really do not need to see. Men being the visual creatures that they are however, often want to see who they are really talking to. If you refuse to go on cam you are accused of being everything from a man to very ugly. Many online are so suspicious, and many online have lied, so ones that have had such experiences often think the worst of everyone and assume the worst in all cases. Some things really are best left to the imagination.
Indulge Yourself – Most people masturbate. It’s honestly hard to consider there are some people that do not, but like everything, there are exceptions to every rule, and jerking off and rubbing our pussies is not something 100% of people do. Personally, I cannot fathom living a life without masturbation. Many start very young and it’s just a lifelong behavior. Some do not seem to come to it until they have a lover, some never. Some people it’s a gross thing to imagine them rubbing one out and even grosser thought to picture them having sex!
Feels So Good – It is a private behavior for the most part, something you wouldn’t want to see people on the benches in the mall doing, yet there’s still an embarrassment factor to this most human of actions. Some feel they are less of a person since they should have a partner and they shouldn’t have to resort “to that”. It’s a failure of sorts for ones that think that way. Many have masturbation as their only sexual outlet. They are adult virgins, and for whatever reason, life circumstances, conviction to their religious beliefs, nature has been cruel to them looks wise, though they could always hire an escort if that’s the case.
Stroke Yourself, It’s Good For You – It amazes me some actually feel guilty for masturbating. You don’t feel guilty if you get thirsty or tired, do you? No, they are physical things that happen to you, the same as getting horny, yet some feel they should have total control over those kinds of feelings. Masturbation is good for you, it is a form of exercise, and I can’t think of a way alone to more enjoy getting exhausted and lose your breath! It releases feel good hormones and actually lowers the cancer risk in men. 21 orgasms a month are recommended for optimal prostate health, keep those pipes clean, boys!
Don’t Be A Jerk – I wrote the following to a member who had written me and asked what he could do to cut down on his experiences with women online that were cybering or camming with him and then going offline as soon as they came, leaving him in the lurch. I decided my reply was sensible enough to be posted for others to see and hopefully learn something from. Even if you are not a religious sort, the do unto others as you would have them do onto you bit is sound advice that every single person should be practicing.
Assholes Online – Many online are assholes, this will come as no revelation, I am sure. Keyboard warriors who are bold due to their anonymity alone. One way to avoid getting dropped during a cam, phone or cyber session, is not to engage in one until you know the person better, but I know most people come on when they are horny and want something right then. This has never been my personal game plan, it’s like going shopping when you are starving, you’ll grab the nearest morsel you can get.
Don’t Just Be Horny, Be Polite – I realize my personal “audition process” is not what most people do, but it cuts down on bad experiences when you chat with someone a few times before playing, there’s more of an investment of time, so they are not as apt to run off as soon as they cum. Even with this method though, it has happened to me. I have been hung up on by a handful of guys after they came, and I was livid and immediately deleted and blocked them. One I even had chatted with for 6 weeks before playing with him and he did this to me the first and only time we played. I have never done this to one person I have phoned with, even when I knew I’d made a bad choice and would never be playing with them again, I got through it and did it and finished the call.
Cum & Go – I have heard countless guys tell me girls they were phoning, camming, or cybering with some girl who immediately left when they came. There are some rude, inconsiderate individuals out there. Obviously they wouldn’t do that to someone they were looking for a long term online playing relationship with. But a “hit and run encounter” with someone they have no intention of playing with again, they just don’t care. Other sites will be the same, CC doesn’t have the market cornered on thoughtless jerks and bitches, all sites will have the same sorts. Selfish idiots looking to get off and only their own orgasm to care about. Show others some respect and let them finish, even if you know you will not be playing with them again.
You Get What You Give – Karma is a reality, what goes around does indeed come around. Show others the same courtesy and respect you yourself would wish to be shown. Would you like to be hung up on? Your screen go black as they have turned off their cam? See them log out in chat when they say they have cum? I doubt you would. Treat others decently and maybe you will have someone to play with again in the future, and not some one time hit and run encounter that you’d be embarrassed to be confronted about.
The following blog post was written by ClimaxConnection member “typeaer“.
Aurally Eargasmic – why I love sounds.
I was recently asked by an anonymous female chatter: “what’s so special about phone sex and why do you love it so much?
My reply: “Do you want the long or short answer?”
To which she replied: “Both.”
You Sound Hot – In short, sounds are the sensual reward to saying the right word, touching the right spot, letting your lover know how fucking good it feels. Sounds are critical to the passion and essential to making you wet and your man rock hard. Sounds let me know you’re getting close, very close and I’m doing the right thing in just the right way.
Hearing You Cum – Hearing without the benefit of seeing is the ultimate tease. The slide of a zipper, the faint slap of material as roaming hands explore the borders at the fringe of wetness and or hardness – therein lies the turn on. Sounds are involuntary signs marking the transition from one excitement level to another. They’re an auditory right of passage symbolizing my finger has just dipped into your wetness or your hand has just gripped and squeezed the extent of my hardness. Sounds trigger the duration, timing and urgency of not only foreplay and sex but most importantly, our impending climaxes.
What is my Kryptonite? My Achilles heal? Hearing everything that brings her to and ultimately makes her cry out: “I’m cumming. . .”
Sex Sounds – Sounds feed the voyeur in us. They tell an entire story with a single breath, gasp or sigh. Sounds reflect the temperature of your libido and embellish the experience by adding sexually charged fuel to the fire. Sounds complete the visual experience and intensify the scents and flavors of the moment. Without sound, sex is just a silent movie and that is why I love phone sex so much.
Before she signed off she replied:
“Fucking hell you have a talent with words. I want to call you up right now :$ If I had a dick, it would be painfully hard right now but I don’t so I just gotta deal with these wet panties. . .”
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