The Answer Is No – How do you handle the dreaded word no? You’re going to hear it quite a few times in your lifetime. Every person reading this has been horny at least once when their partner wasn’t. More than likely, it’s happened quite a bit in your life. It happens to both guys and gals. Yes, there are even times when men don’t want to have sex. It make come as a shock to some women, but it’s been known to happen.
The Opposite Of Yes – How you handle being told no more than likely depends on how often you hear that word. If you hear it often, there’s a problem. Then, it’s a matter of sitting down and dealing with the problem. If it’s just something you hear occasionally, then don’t be alarmed. What you’re experiencing is just a part of life. It happens to couples more than you probably realize. Don’t freak out about it. That’s the last thing you want to do. Coping with the no word isn’t all that difficult. At first, it very well may be. You’ll get used to it over time.
Timing Is Everything – Hearing the word no too often may very well be due to poor planning. Sex is something that you have to plan. This is true later on in life. It would be great if were always a spontaneous thing. Those days are a thing of the past, once you start taking life serious. Sorry, that’s just the way it is. Santa isn’t real and neither is the tooth fairy. It was probably best to burst your bubble all at once and not piece by piece.
You Smell Great – The importance of scent can’t be overstated in it’s role in arousal. Most people overlook scent and are blinded to it. Everything you use in today’s world is scented. It’s easy for your nose to get overloaded and to overlook everything. A small dab of perfume or cologne can set the mood like nothing else can. You should always look for new and interesting ways to introduce scent in your love life.
Setting The Mood – Something as simple as burning incense can make the mood more romantic. You can put a little perfume on a pillow or a piece of clothing. Be creative in how you introduce scents to your partner. You should also think about taking them with you when buying perfume or cologne. Most men aren’t going to want to hang out at the cosmetic counter and sniff until they sneeze. Find a place where both of you can buy something and you’ll be killing two birds with one stone. Scent doesn’t have to be added directly to your body.
Smells Like You – Be creative and find places where you can sneak it a spritz or two. Why not write a love letter and make it smell good? A teddy bear with cologne on it will make your woman feel less lonely while you’re away on a business trip. Too many times people focus just on their genitals when it comes to love making. Instead, think of the whole person. You’re not making love to just a penis or a vagina. You should be making love to the entire person. That includes their nose and make sure you’re giving it something good to sniff.
Honey, We Need To Talk – How do you tell your partner they’re doing something you don’t like? Most people like to think they’re great in the sack. Every person does at least one thing that they’re partner doesn’t like. It can be difficult telling someone that you don’t like what they’re doing. How do you do it in a way that doesn’t make them feel uncomfortable? Feeling uncomfortable in the bedroom, can actually wreck a relationship. Your partner could very well be doing something that isn’t pleasureful, or in fact hurts.
Break It To Them Gently – The first thing you want to do is make sure that you’re breaking the news in a way that isn’t angry or hurtful. You don’t want to scream down their throat that you don’t like them gnawing on your testicles. You may end up with a tooth stuck right in the middle of one by doing so. Instead, be calm and upfront about it. Tell them what you like about what they’re doing. Then, tell them what you don’t like. You should go into it thinking that they very well may be heart broken by what you say. This can be especially true if you’re talking about an issue with their sexual performance in general.
That’s Not Wood You’re Gnawing On – Understanding that a topic such as this can be quite sensitive is important for how you address it. Feelings can easily be hurt and this is why you need to skate on thin ice. It’s either that, or live with a raw clitoris every time your partner goes down on you. That’s probably not something you’re going to want to live with for the rest of your life. So, you better find a way to break it to your partner without causing them a nervous breakdown.
Trying Something New – You’ve got a new fantasy that you want to live out. There’s just one thing getting in the way of you living out that fantasy. That one thing is your partner. It’s not uncommon for people to stumble upon strange things these days. You may discover something totally new at a porn site or, it may just come to you out of the blue. What one person calls strange in the sack another may think is normal. Strange is a relative term and there’s no way to determine what is or what isn’t. You know your partner and what they will probably think of as being strange. You more than likely also know what they’re willing to do in the sack.
Open To New Ideas – It’s those pesky gray areas that are difficult to navigate. How do you break it to your partner that you want to try something out of the ordinary? The best way is to do so as plainly as possible. You don’t want to present it in a way that scares them. You may even bring along a visual aid or two to help describe what your new found fantasy is. Always try to present things in a way that doesn’t seem too foreign. People will more than likely say no if they find whatever it is that you want to do as being too strange. Your likelihood of living out the fantasy depends mostly on presentation.
Combating Boredom – Spicing up what happens in the bedroom is a great way to prevent boredom. Being bored sexually can have as negative of an impact as not having sex frequently enough. Arousal is key to feeling sexually happy and fulfilled. Don’t be shy when it comes to telling your partner about your newly discovered fantasy. Living them out will increase your bond and strengthen the relationship as a whole.
Too Much Of A Good Thing – How do you know if you watch too much porn? Many people don’t realize that they’re watching too much. Too much of anything isn’t good for you. Porn and masturbation go together hand in hand. Most people who watch porn masturbate while doing so. We’ve already talked about how masturbation can have a negative impact on your sex life. Porn can have the same negative impact, along with a few other things that most people aren’t going to realize. Watching too much porn can give us too high of expectations of one another. No one can perform like they do in porn videos. This is a truth that should be common sense.
Reality Check – Watch professional athletes play a game and see how they perform. You can’t slam dunk a basketball like they can. Why would you think that you or your partner should have the same oral sex skills as a porn star? Then there’s the bodies that the porn stars have. The guys have huge cocks and most of them spend all day in the gym. The women have big tits and rarely have an extra ounce of fat on them. Chances are you and your partner look nothing like the people in porn videos do. Unrealistic expectations when it comes to both performance and appearance is what watching too much porn will result in. Then no one is happy.
Everything In Moderation – This isn’t to say that you should quit watching porn entirely. Just make sure you’re not jerking off to porn more than you’re having sex. Porn is a lot like restaurant food, a little every now and then is okay. Don’t eat more takeout than food than what your own two hands cook. Don’t watch more porn than you have sex. It’s as simple as that.
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