Love On Hold – There are times when you and your partner aren’t going to have sex. Prolonged periods of no sex can be expected during pregnancy. Your guy may have to undergo a surgery that prevents him from working his boner. There’s a thousand reasons why you and the person you love may not be having any fun in the sack. How do you cope with these times? They’re going to happen. You’re no different than anyone else.
Cool It, Buddy – The first thing you need to do is be supportive of your partner. You’re not in the relationship just for sex. If you are, then that’s a big problem. A bigger problem than what can be addressed in this article. You have to keep in mind the reason you’re not having sex. It’s not because your partner doesn’t want to get it on. They’re just not capable of doing it. There has to be a level of understanding on a human level in order to make a relationship work. This is a test of that understanding. What can you do during these times of no action? You can dip your genitals in ice water. That may do the trick for a little while. If that doesn’t sound appealing, then you’ll have to masturbate. If that sounds like the end of the world, then it’s time to give up sex cold turkey for awhile. There’s no choice in the matter. You’ll probably rub one out before deciding to go cold turkey.
There’s Always Masturbation – Few people have the will power to not take matters into their own hands. The last thing you want to do in a situation like this is to cheat on your partner. They’re already going through enough as it is. Why make the situation even more difficult for them? Sometimes life is about more than just your needs. You’ve got to sacrifice yourself to make success on any level happen. Stick with your partner and help them get through this difficult time. They’ll certainly repay you with a terrific time in the hay.
Stop Doing That – How do you handle your partner’s bad habits in the sack? Maybe your woman always wants to stick her finger up your ass during oral sex. Your guy may be yanking a little too hard on your ponytail while nailing you from behind. How do you tell your partner to stop doing these things? Chances are your partner does at least one thing in the sack that you don’t like. At some point you’re going to have to break the news to them.
Break It Gently – The first thing you want to do is make sure you’re not condescending about it. People are very sensitive when it comes to their sexual performance. You don’t want to tell you’re partner they aren’t the best in the world. It’ll bum them out in ways that you can’t even begin to understand. Egos are really big when it comes to sex. That’s why you have to let them down easy. Be gentle and overly cautious when telling them about something you don’t like.
Pay Attention – Communication is key for any relationship. No relationship can survive without it. You’re going to have to talk about these things. Sure, you could tattoo a message near your asshole letting them know no fingers are allowed. How can you be certain they’ll read it? You could end up going through a lot of trouble for little to no results. Great sex is the product of many things. Communication is one of those things. Tell him your nipples aren’t a chew toy. Hopefully they’ll catch on eventually.
Dress You Up – You’re in a strange position that you never thought you’d be in. Your partner wants you to dress up as someone of the opposite sex. Should you be alarmed that they’re having homosexual fantasies? The quick answer is no. The truth is, they may not be having homosexual fantasies at all. They just want to do a little role playing. They may want to see you wearing something different. It could be something as simple as that.
Role Playing – Can it harm your relationship to live out gender bending fantasies? No. Actually, you might find your relationship stronger afterwards. Your partner will feel that they can come to you with any fantasy that they have. No matter how strange it may seem at the time. It very well could be a phase they’re going through. Living out the fantasy may get it out of their system and you can then move onto something else. The only caveat to all this is if you notice your partner watching a lot of homosexual porn. You may even notice them paying close attention to people of the same sex while out and about. If this is the case, it very well could be more than just a fantasy.
What Are The Risks? – The only real danger of this sort of thing is adultery. The risk of heartache and disease is real when people stray away from their relationship. As long as adultery isn’t in the mix, gender bending fantasies are okay. In fact, they’re quite healthy. You might as well put on a fake mustache and go down on your man. There’s no reason why he can’t put on a bra or wear some high heel shoes. If nothing else, the two of you very well could get a laugh out of it.
Are You Doing It Again? – What do you do when you keep catching your partner masturbation? You’ve probably caught your partner jerking off or finger banging before. How do you handle repeatedly catching them do this? Many people make the mistake that their partner’s masturbation is a reflection on them. That could be the case. However, it very well may not be. You have to determine why they’re masturbating so much.
Horny All The Time – You’ve just caught your partner in the throws of self-pleasing themselves. Now what? Don’t freak out. Let them finish. There’s no reason to spoil a perfectly good orgasm. After they’re done, you need to talk. Ask them why they’re masturbating so much. Are you not having enough sex with them? If that’s the case, then something needs to change. You could be offering sex, but your partner isn’t interested. This is a big problem as well. You need to determine why your partner is choose their hand over you. You and your partner have sex quite a bit. They’re still masturbating. What does that mean? It means they have a strong sex drive. Sex alone isn’t enough to satisfy them. Masturbation isn’t wrong in this situation. After all, they’re giving you a break in a sense.
Mismatching Sex Drives – No two people are going to be perfect matches when it comes to the amount of sex they desire. Masturbation is a way for people to make up for the sex they don’t receive. There are those times when people just like to play with themselves. Every now and then the best sex partner is yourself. Don’t be alarmed to find out that your partner occasionally plays with themselves. If it’s often, then the reason is one listed above. Determine why they’re playing with themselves and deal with it.
Does It Mean The End? – Does infidelity have to ruin a relationship? Must a relationship be over if someone cheats on their partner? The obvious answer is no. The relationship doesn’t have to come to an end. Relationships have weathered far worse and anyone who’s been in one long enough fully understands that.
Weather The Storm – It doesn’t mean that infidelity doesn’t cause a major strain in the relationship. Every relationship needs to have boundaries. You and your partner need to discuss what exactly cheating is. There are some of you reading this that are in more liberal open relationships. Cheating for you may mean something entirely different than what it would for a conservative couple. These things need to be discussed early on in the relationship. It’s not uncommon these days for couples to take breaks. You’ve probably seen DNA tests on your favorite talk show as the result of those breaks. If you and your partner take a break from each other, you’ve got to make rules. A broken heart will be the result if you don’t. Not only that, but it very well could ruin the relationship beyond repair.
Be Safe – Always get tested for sexually transmitted diseases if you or your partner has had sex with someone else. STDs are one of the nasty consequences of infidelity. You want to take your health during this time very seriously. Not just your physical health, but your mental health as well. You won’t be able to repair your relationship, or move on, if you’re sick. Take care of yourself and work on building a better tomorrow. This is solid advice, regardless if the relationship survives the infidelity, or not.
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