Be Strong And Say Goodbye – Long distance relationships today are more common than they were because of the internet. People can meet online that a couple of decades a go would never have met, but online chat rooms and websites bring people together that otherwise would never find each other. One thing that is sadly common in real life relationships is abuse, and you may think how can an online relationship be abusive? Yet it’s more common than you’d think. Abuse can happen in cyber and phone sex relationships as well. Some people we connect with online can be like a drug to us, we know they are bad for us, yet they are so seductive and we are drawn to them like a moth to a flame. There is an intensity to more extreme people that can be abusive and that intensity can be like a hit of heroin we can’t stay away from. Some of the sex can without a doubt be the hottest and most intense in an abusive situation, there’s a love/hate combo going on that can make for very hot times.
Don’t Let Them Back In – It’s a lot easier to brush someone off online, after all, many times all we have is an email address or an online chat ID, maybe if phone sex was involved, a phone number. You can easily block a person’s ID so they can’t contact you, but if they are determined enough, they can create a new ID in a few minutes. Some people will keep going back at you to the point of harassment. What happens though when one person, the more trusting and kinder of the two, allows that person back in time after time, no matter how badly they may have been treated? You’d think how can they let themselves get sucked in time after time to the same ill treatment? Some of us are sadly gluttons for punishment indeed, and if we would tolerate that sort of behavior in real life, we likely would online as well.
You Deserve Better – Willpower is something you need to allow yourself to break free from an abusive online relationship. You always want to believe them, that they have changed, that they will no longer treat you badly, but the sad fact is, they do not want to change and that’s the hard part to accept. When you have seen how nice and sexy and sweet someone can appear and then you see their true colors, it can be hard to accept that the one we had feelings for, “the nice them”, doesn’t really exist and isn’t coming back. That is the mask they showed us at the beginning to suck us in with, not the true them, which is what we learn they really are. Predators aren’t always rapists or murderers, they can be people online that truly don’t care anything about you that seek to use you, harass you and make you feel bad, it’s nothing but a game to them. They are likely cowards who don’t have anyone in real life so find easy prey online they can manipulate for their own entertainment.
Some members may wonder why the delay in our paid level membership when it was supposed to go live Jan. 1, 2014. I not only wanted to explain, but also let others know the crooks I was dealing with so anyone reading this will be warned to stay away from this unscrupulous company and save themselves the grief and financial hit I have suffered.
The paid level WAS all set to debut Jan. 1, 2014. I own several online businesses and websites I processed credit cards for using ibill from Aug. 2012-Dec. 2013. In Dec. 2013 when I requested my money that had accumulated since June 2013, I was NOT paid. Obviously when I realized they were keeping my money I had earned, I certainly could not go forward with the paid level and have them get even more money I wouldn’t be paid. So since the site went live in Dec. 2013 the premium level has been free for all. It was meant to be for Dec., but not for Jan., Feb., March, and part of April. I then had to look for another merchant, which is no overnight process as anyone in adult can tell you. I have now acquired a full adult merchant account with Netbilling, a reputable processor.
Below is what I submitted to Ripoff Report and the Better Business Bureau. I’m sure it will not result in me getting my funds I am owed, but if by printing this here it can prevent anyone else from being stolen from, then that is good. Another member I mentioned this to had the same experience with ibill as well a few years ago.
If you have any billing needs for your businesses and need to process credit cards, I have now warned you about the scammers, thieves and criminals that run ibill and keep the merchants money. There’s countless other people I am in contact with on adult forum boards that have lost much more than I have they told me.
Why don’t I just use PayPal for the premium level? Because PayPal will not accept adult websites, sadly. They have a very contradictory adult policy. Some online sex toy stores can get approved for PayPal, yet a membership site cannot. Climaxconnection was submitted three times for website review and declined all three times. Any time you see a similar site accepting PayPal, (and two come to my mind immediately accepting PayPal for their memberships and donations), you can be certain they are NOT doing so with PayPal’s approval or knowledge. It’s set up so anyone can create the pay now buttons, but to do things the proper way, you need to submit your website to PayPal for them to look at and approve it, and nearly no one goes through the proper channels, they do things against the rules of PayPal knowingly and hope for the best. They usually have some non adult, vanilla sounding name so as not to alert PayPal to their unapproved scheme. If they are caught, their accounts will be terminated. Hopefully PayPal will at some point change their stance on adult websites, but as of this writing, they will not allow it, so I cannot offer that as a payment option.
I have screenshots of everything, this is a fact. For ones that ask why not go to small claims court, if you’ve ever been, and I have, you may win, but good luck collecting, you won’t be able to. They know people will not spend 10K to collect 2K, that’s how it works and that’s why the scammers keep scamming and get away with it. I have heard from several reports and people Jonas Brown is involved in this new site as well, and I can promise you he is a liar and you will not get your money. They will pay you when you first sign up, but you have to hound them for it. Then one day they will stop with the payments with excuse after excuse as to why you can’t get your money. I have spoken to countless people that have been taken by them and it plays out exactly the same each and every time. They are expert con artists and liars and have been at this for years. If you search “ibill scam” online, there will be years and years of reports you will find from merchants they have stolen from and not paid their money to.
http://www.ripoffreport.com/reports/specific_search/ibill
http://www.ripoffreport.com/reports/specific_search/ibill.net
I signed up with Ibill.net in Aug. 2012 to use them as a third party biller for my websites. I was not aware at the time I signed up with them that they already had a bad reputation for paying their merchants.
I was paid the first few times I requested money, but it was usually a battle to get it, requiring several phone calls and emails. Deposits were never straightforward at ibill, you always had to hound them for your money.
I did not have a lot of transactions, so I usually only withdrew money two times a year, June and Dec. I received money last June 2013 after I requested it. When I went to make my end of the year withdrawal in Dec. 2013 this is when the problems started. I called a few times and was assured there was nothing to worry about, that the “pool of merchants” I was in had a bad apple among them so ALL the funds of the pool of merchants had been frozen for 90 days. Odd, considering I myself had done nothing wrong that MY funds would also be frozen, but I fell for it.
Well wouldn’t you know, the 90 days have come and gone and still no money from ibill. I am owed $2034.35 USD by this company.
Obviously when I started to get the run around with this place, Jonas Brown in particular, I realized I’d best not do any more transactions and haven’t run one with ibill since the middle of Dec. 2013.
Emails and voicemail messages are ignored. I last heard from him in Jan. 2014 when I was given the promise of “the third week in Feb.” the money would be deposited in my account. I must say I wasn’t surprised or pleased when I started looking online to see such recent reports of only a couple of weeks ago from others getting the same run around and lies that I am.
The Call Of The Wild – Noisy sex can be good from some and terrifying from others. Women are no doubt much more vocal overall than most men. I say most, because some guys can sound downright terrifying, as in they can let out these murderous roars that sound like they are about to meet their maker. Others are so dead quiet, you have no idea if they’ve cum or not. People’s sounds do indeed run the gamut from silent to scary.
Rattle The Window Panes – Biologically speaking, there is a purpose to such noises, especially from the fairer sex. In cave man days when a woman was loud during her sexual encounters, it in fact alerted other villagers, or cave dwellers as the case may be, that there was a female not only ready for action, but already engaging in some, and it was basically a cry of alertment for others to come have a go at her. Like a cat in heat basically, calling all the neighborhood toms. Yes, you can be quiet if you have to, but it’s so much more natural to just let go and be yourself. I tell you, after a good phone date, my throat is sore usually from all my cries of passion!
Wake The Neighbors – It also usually acts as a trigger for the man to orgasm as soon as he hears the woman start hers, again Mother Nature in all her wisdom did this. Some studies have shown the chance of conception is a bit higher if a woman orgasms, since the uterine contractions can sort of “suck up the sperm” making it more likely, so if the woman starts said contractions seconds before her partner ejaculates, the chances are higher of pregnancy. Many things in nature have wonderful and interesting reasons behind them. So the next time your partner is rattling the window panes with their shrieks of passion, enjoy it, and be glad the men of the neighborhood aren’t outside your door awaiting their turn!
Mirror Mirror On The Wall – Sexually stimulating ourselves is normal, watching ourselves in a mirror as we do so can be an arousing addition to our masturbation mix. Full length mirrors allow us a full body view standing up, and hand held mirrors for girls allow us to get a real up close and personal look at our own bodies from a visual vantage point we otherwise could not have. People should be encouraging their young people to explore themselves in this manner, but our hush hush societal mentality on sexuality and masturbation in particular makes this not very likely to happen.
Enjoy Yourself Visually – You can’t expect someone else to please you sexually until you yourself know what feels good to you. Watching as the juices flow out of yourself with a magnifying mirror can be very exciting, watching your fingertips lightly caress your stiffened clit and watch your pussy contract with your orgasm and watch it pulse. Many couples enjoy having sex in front of mirrors, some really into it have mirrors placed above their beds. Guys into mirror masturbation often will cum right on the mirror and watch as it erupts against the glass and trickles down.
A Different Perspective – Your very own porn for one. Watching as you make yourself cum. It’s very sexy, and you can quickly understand why guys like watching a lady masturbate so much, it’s sensual and arousing and they love the look of a woman pleasing herself in front of them. So if you haven’t masturbated in front of a mirror in a while, maybe get one out and reacquaint yourself with the visual poetry that is yourself masturbating. I have a feeling you just might enjoy it.
Who Will You Be Tonight – Many people that enjoy cyber sex are also very much into fantasy role playing. I can’t even count how many times I have gotten an inbox message from guys with some long, elaborate, detailed role play scene. They could have saved themselves the trouble of their copy and paste if they’d read my profile in the first place and saw it’s not my particular interest, but guys being guys, they tend to cast a wide net and hope some gal they sent it to will reply back to them.
Be My Neighbor – The naughty neighbor lady is a popular one among guys that seem to enjoy the cougar/cub fantasy. The lonely neighbor lady that may just have an out of town husband that’s been neglecting her and they are only too willing to let the young neighbor boy look after their needs. The handsome young lad that’s horny and often not that experienced and is looking for a caring, affectionate, mature lady willing to guide them into manhood with blissful abandon, errant husband be damned.
Welcome To My Fantasy – Some impress me with their creativity, but it seems like a fair bit of work to me, I’m more grounded in reality, but to each their own. Some love to indulge in a good fantasy, escape the realities of their hum drum lives and let a tale take on a life of its own for them. It can enhance the experience for them and get them off a little bit better than if they just acted themselves. Many people come to an adult chat rooms to find other partners willing to play along with them and join in the fantasy together, masturbating while pretending they are living out this extraordinary fantasy that enhances their masturbation.
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